It’s interesting to think of what qualities we look for when choosing our friends. I have been thinking about it lately and I asked myself what the single most important entity is in a friendship. I think its reciprocity. It’s a two-way street as they say, and if someone is throwing up a road block…well, then hell…that sucks, but that’s the end of that.
But before the reciprocity test is given, there has to be something else. Why am I drawn to certain people over others? Why am I (why are we for that matter) more motivated to pursue some friendships over others? It’s probably analagous to why we seek out some relationships over others. I think it is.
I look back at my friends over the past couple years and they share a few similar traits: Its like a package that’s wrapped with a good sense of humor and similar interests to make it shiny and appealing. But after you get through the paper, what’s inside that keeps you from returning the gift? I think the package I’ve looked over the past few years is passion and inspiration. My friends are passionate about life, people, knowledge, and music. And they inspire me to think differently, provoke the wheels in my head to keep turning, and motivate me to live out my dreams. There are many that come to mind, but let me mention 3.
1) Mario Hernandez is a fellow I met at Diablo Valley College 5 years a go. I felt like a wandering, lost individual after high school was over and Mario became quite an inspiration to me. Looking back, I think he was one of the first people to challenge and stimulate me intellectually: Sociologically, politically, musically, our discussions ascended. Over the years, our conversation’s life, depth, and meaning have been cherished. 100 lattes, 1000 songs, and many laughs later I’m glad I met the guy.
2) Alex De la Cruz: I met Alex in my semester abroad in Spain. My initial impressions were of an arrogant, head shaven guy always wearing sun glasses… But their was much more than meets the shades and our friendship grew in Salamanca and really expanded when I moved to San Diego. We’ve wandered and partied the streets of Hollywood, SD, SF, and Spain. Many more escapades are to come and I know he’s always down for an adventure. Many of us talk a lot of what we would like to do, might do, wish we could have done differently. This cat is making his dreams a reality and he is an example for any and all aspiring artists. “Exploration only requires some desire and initiative” - Atmosphere. Many of us got the desire, but lack the initiative. Alex wrote me an incredible email a month ago. He has started a record label and a magazine - ensuring that his love for writing, making music, and creating art all make the progress and receive the attention they deserve.
A description of the magazine courtesy of his page on myspace.com:
I am a Citizen of the World dedicated to coalescing all forms of knowledge. I desire no borders or boundaries. I feel that nationalism is tragic. I adhere to culture revolving around art. I despise violence. I accept any form of art that desires expression and innovation. I enjoy movies about salvation. I reside in a world dedicated to language; polyglots are my best friends. monolinguists fall short of experiencing life. When are we going to have wine together? And read Dada together? And paint on the walls together? Grab le goblet pull up a chair, pour something toxic into that glorious crystal i watch Dada, i sing Dada, with a twist of Futurismo, and some Zang Tumb TooM blow your room into little pieces, little shreds, little bottles of alcohol floating instead and wicked strings pronounce melody melodies me lo dies
and from cable cars we watch the beautiful world alive a live a little more alive
so now you gain a sense of my sentiments
those brick-a-brack brits with their superfluous intellect i spat spit sp sp sp spit them out in syllables
And a description of the record label:
Melo.Co.Records finally came into existence on Feb 3rd 2005. The long awaited creation was first introduced by Emmanuel Sevilla, when he realized that a little organization was the only element missing. He sent out an email on June 29th 2004 and inspired us all. Sons of Them is the first band to be signed by the label. The Branford Mission is in the works to be signed and a sexy quartet by the name of Go Dutch are also being sought by the label. We are a mixture of pure, rhythmic, melodic rock that is dedicated to the progression of music. We develop our ideas through experience and the sounds and sights of the world around us. We are citizens of the world and of art, and are constantly seeking to display the appreciation we have for beauty. We are the new rock. Adios
3) Noah Goodman: I recall sitting on the cement blocks at UCSD with some grub from the co-op, telling my friend Martine, “Noah is my new best friend. I love that guy. He is always so excited about everything.” I met Noah less than two years ago. We had “Politics of Developing Countries” and “Chinese History” together along with Nina and Mike… (Noah is now studying in Brazil, Nina in Thailand, and Mike in England). Every time we would get out of class, it was like we had just downed 3 cups of espresso. Our professors inspired us and gave us new information… which provoked us to desire more info and more knowledge. I would feel frustrated that I had so much more to learn. So many google searches to do, so many chapters and articles to read. But we would chat over some coffee at the Grove, do half the reading, cram like no other, learn a fair amount, and laugh about it later. Noah just wrote this email and his thoughts echo many that I am having right now in India. Opinions, yes they are like assholes. I like to ask people’s advice as much as anyone, but now I feel that even after getting ten responses from different folks… I still need to discover it for myself. I’ll have to write more on that later because people’s advice kills me sometimes!! It makes me so irate to get a faulty opinion and I’m so sick of it that I want to cuss and scream about it. Let’s read what Noah gotz to say about it.
Whats up cats and kittens,
I know I´ve been horrible about email, but you dont understand, I swear Ive
tried, theres just…ummm…lots of distractions here…I´m sure you all
understand though (and if you don´t then you obviously need to visit
Brazil). Anyways, so my 2 months in Salvador have come to an end and I´m
rockin it in Rio now. I was sad to leave Salvador, full of preconceptions
about Rio (its impossible not to be, the Baianos [people from the state of
Bahia where Salvador is] sure as hell don´t let you go with an open mind).
My last couple of weeks in Salvador were some of my best (it just always
seems to happen that way now doesn´t it), I met loads of great people,
explored new areas that for some reason I just never did while I was full of
the complacency of living in one place, found hidden gems in areas that I
thought I had already explored. Its amazing what a little sense of urgency
can do for you.
At the same time I was getting a barrage of stories about how horrible Rio
was going to be. Whenever someone found out I was leaving Salvador for Rio,
I got the same line, ‘watch out Rio is dangerous, Salvador is mellow, but
you have to watch yourself in Rio’. This came from every person you talked
with, regardless of whether or not they had been to Rio, its just common
knowledge, Rio is where you get killed by a stray bullet coming from the
favelas, and everybody loves to impart this common knowledge upon you. In
rio you can´t trust the cab drivers, in rio never set your drink down
because someone will drug it, in rio all the girls are completely fake and
just want your money (ok so I knew this one was at least not completely
true, hi Jo
), in rio its impossible to meet people, in rio you can´t walk
at night, you´re never safe even in the best neighborhoods, the buses?
forget them, ‘I have a friend who knows this girl who was there who said
that (fill in the blank with some bad story)…oh did you hear the story
about the lady who met this guy on the internet (you can guess where this
one is going)’…I even got the age old urban legends of people waking up in
the bathtub of ice with their liver cut out and crazed people walking around
with syringes filled with HIV infected blood and sticking them into
unsuspecting innocent bystandards. Oh and you can´t forget the tiroteos
(gunfights)….everybody knows about tiroteos and balas perdidas (stray
bullets) in the morros (means hills but used as another word for favleas
since most of hte favelas here in rio are on ‘vertical’ as they say, or on
the hills [the favelados {people that live in the favelas} have the best
views in Rio, kinda funny eh {well thats assuming their house doesn´t get
swept down the side of the hill in a rain storm]). And the worst part about
it all, is this is all confirmed by the cariocas (people from Rio) you meet,
everybody is on alert (and with programs like the television show ‘Rio
Alert’–one of many sensational shows [not to mention the news] that focuses
specifically on all the horrible things going on in this city, and then
tries to sell you car alarms and home security systems in the commercial
break–you can hardly blame them). The thing is you sit around, constantly
hearing these stories from people, and you just can´t help but get a little
freaked out, even if you know that most of it is probobly overblown. The
thing is I´ve heard this same line about plenty of places I´ve been and it
usually turns out to be completely blown out of proportion, but whenever
you´re hearing it about a new place, you can´t help but wonder whether this
is going to be the one that lives up to its rep.
Anyways all this to say that I was more than just sad about leaving
Salvador, I was a bit apprehensive about what I was going to find in Rio. I
was already making plans to return to Salvador before I left, and although I
was telling myself that I should take Rio with an open mind and try not to
compare it to Salvador because I knew the two were completely different, I
admit I came to Rio with a bit of a sense of the cultural superiority of
Salvador, that Salvador was true Brazilian culture, Salvador was batucada,
candomblé, capoeira, and none of it folklorized (OK well thats a lie, but
little of it at least completely folklorized), all if it living on the
streets and in the vains of the populatoin…that Rio would be brazilian
culture whitewashed…Rio was beautiful bodies on the beach but empty heads
and souls (ok so maybe thats taking a bit far, but you get the point).
Well I´m happy to report, DON´T BELIEVE THE HYPE (well at least not that
side of the hype, because there is plenty of the good hype that Rio does
live up to). OK so I´m not saying danger does not exist here, because that
would be a stupid statement to make, sure people get robbed, people get
shot, but the same happens in New York city or hell Ocean Beach (my
neighborhood in San Diego where there were a handful of murders a block away
from my apartment while I lived but I never felt the least bit unsalfe).
Sure there are places where you need to be attentive, but hell its a good
idea to be at least a little bit attentive no matter where you are. But I
have yet to feel that I´m in a particularly dangerous place, and I haven´t
been hanging out in Ipanema, I´ve been hanging out in Lapa an area that (at
least some) cariocas warn me about, while plenty others tell me its chill.
I´m not saying I wont get robbed or anything, its possible, but its also
possible that I´ll get robbed in Ipanema, what can you do but take the same
precautions you would take in any big city?
And the city…well the city is something else…this place is amazing. Rio
is beautiful, its landscapes are things dreams are made of…pão de açucar,
dois irmãos, pedra da gavea, corcovado with christ looking down at you no
matter where you are in the city (I sit in my classrooms here at the
university staring out the window to the peak of corcovado with christ, his
arms spread, at the top), the geography of this city is amazing…then add
in all the amazing lushness of the city, jardim botanico and tijuca park (a
piece of the rainforest in the middle of the city), the lagoa, its all
breathtaking. I swear I have spiritual experiences riding the bus, seeing
corcovado apear in between the vertical apartment buildings, taking the turn
from copacabana into Ipanema with its long stretch of beach crowned by dois
irmãos (two brothers, the name of the mountain at the top of teh Ipanema
beach, if you haven´t seen pics check this page out
http://www.earj85.com/albums/Rio_de_Janeiro/ [I´m sure theres a better page
but thats waht i found on short notice]), or dropping into barra at night
with lights of the favelas stringing around pedra da gavea like ornaments on
a christmas tree sparkling off of the little lake at the base. It just
needs to be experienced.
And the people…all this mess about how its really hard to meet people here
in Rio, and that everybody is false etc. I haven´t found this to be true at
all. I talked to more locals here in my first week than I think I did in my
2 months in Salvador. I love Salvador, but its definately been easier to
meet people here, and the people I´ve met here have been great. OK this is
going to be an abrupt ending, but I´m getting tired of writing and its
friday so I gotta get home and a nap in before meeting some cats down in
Lapa (kinda more bohemian neighborhood lots of music out in the streets,
lots of good ol samba, plus hip hop, forro, reggae everything, good fun).
I´ll try to get more written soon, as I get more time here, get settled into
my classes at the university here (OK so I know I´ve left a bunch unsaid
here, but I got a city to get to know)…anyways, I hope that everybody is
doing great, and I´d love to hear from people (I´m a lot better at
responding to emails [although I suck at that sometimes too] than doing the
mass emails). I´ll drop you guys a line too when I get my cell phone
(ewwwww NOahs gonna enter into the world of cell phones [I think]) in case
anybody wants to waste their money on talking with me.
Ciao gente
Noah (or Catatau as they call me here [Catatau is Yogi Bear´s Brazilian
name…smarter than the average bear
…I´ve now been baptized with an
Indian {dots not feathers} name, that was in SAlvador, and now a Brazilian
one ]).